Its all RELATIVE!!

No this is not a post abt uncles, parents or siblings. (for a later date) . . . This is abt people judging others (no saint here . . .am one of u . . ) . .
lets start with example no 1 . now all of us want things in life . .and some us have the means to buy things now . .  some will in a few years be able to afford those things . . what i always find is interesting is the same person who finds a thing a waste of money few years back and judges another for (i.e. cue the ' he wastes money' comment) spending the money and casually buys the same thing a few years later when he has the means . . Cue MY theory of relativity (i know u science nerds and big bang fans prefer Einsteins . . . but i guess thats relative ;)) . . .
now money is one the most fascinating things in the world . People are always in the race towards it . . some marry for it , some take a course for it  . . some give bribes . .  some take bribes . . some cheat for it . .  some work for it . .Irony is some dont realise even why they do it . . some for family . . some for themselves. . . some just for collecting it . .  so many reasons very few get fulfilled . . was just talking abt it to my friend recently how our appreciation of money changes  . . when we were small 1 rupee meant so much (4 25p orange sweets . .  10 spinning mints etc etc  . .)  as we grow older 100 rs seems a big amt.  .as we grow older ull hear people say 40,000 is not a good enough salary . . Cue its all relative . .  this is a classic example where the relativity is related to the individual himself and not even comparison between others . .
Theres the age old adage (love the word dnt ask me why) . .  One man's food another man's poison . .  and that one sentence encompasses my theory . .
Try a day of ur life when u think something bad abt others or think good abt urself; think abt my theory then . . would u do the bad thing in different circumstances . .  wat makes u special when u do the good thing when people are doing better . .  if everyone just thought abt it and stopped judging others life would be simpler . .
Now why this rant . .  been thinking abt getting off my high horse for sometime now . .consider myself privileged that i was lucky enough to take a pg course i love . . it makes it easier for me to study . . i love teaching so it makes it easier again . . so when i see others who have taken courses for other reasons (money, timings, entrance rank etc . ) it bugs me  . .  and i cant control myself and my rant starts . . who i am to judge them is what is going thru my mind . .
i read a lot of books and it bugs me when i see people reading just a few . .  that makes me think i am special and maybe i am . . but again who am i to judge when i dont even remember what i read . .and the fact of the matter is i dont even know what other people read . . i just assume they dont!!!!
So just to ease peoples mind that i only point fingers and because its been bugging me  . .i always point first at myself . . i am aware of my shortcomings and i keep expecting people to be better than me. . . i want my students to make me look stupid  (someday) . . .i would be proud that day...
The hardest thing in the world is not to judge people . . .its basic human behaviour . . most likely it will never change but atleast we can try . . here's to trying.......

The Pursuit of loneliness

Why is it always assumed that a person ’needs’ someone for the rest of their life . . . is Being without a partner that much a struggle . .

What is the ‘need’ .

.. . according to my unnamed friends [ ;) ] - everything from the biological need for intercourse to the biological need to reproduce .

... according to the my biology textbook in school the ultimate goal of life is reproduction . . to put it crudely the NEED to pass on the SEED . .

…. According to me . . . life is what you make out of it . . u could be married with more kids that you can count and still be lonely . . you could have more girlfriends than you can handle in the hope to fill that loneliness inside you . . now these are all theories obviously but the fact of the matter is most people live life in a way they supposedly want and one fine day BOOM arranged marriage . .

…. That brings me to the point of marriage . . why do people actually do it . . is it just to guarantee companionship cos people are so scared of being alone.. . or is it people are scared of dying alone (which is a possibility even if married . no guarantee your spouse outlives you . . then what happens to them if you die they lose their gurantee) . . pretty morbid isn’t it . . that’s why prefer to be alone . . atleast my hypothetical partner wouldn’t have to hear abt me or her dying . . J

Somehow that’s my morbid fantasy . . the smell of my rotting body announces my death to people . . hope my body secretes musk when it putrifies . . J

Coming to personal experience of being alone . . lets see movies alone no prob . . shopping alone no prob . . travelling alone definitely no prob. . the only thing I found relatively tough is eating alone (heavy on pocket if one wants to try lots of dishes J) . .

Now don’t get me wrong its not like I have a problem with the opposite sex . . actually company wise nothing amuses me more. . . but the price of having one around me all the time is too much . . to be specific it takes a toll on them . . not going in to details at this point on that matter (for another rainy day . . you should keep the readers interested . . the morbid thoughts are the hook to get you interested in my personality) . .

So I embark on my lonely road in the pursuit of loneliness. . hope no one hitches a ride . . J

P.S. disjointed text I know . just in a mood to pen something . . and as they say something better than nothing . . . .